Bit of a lengthy post coming, but truly need some insight and wondering if others have experienced this issue as well..
We offer an OPEN monthly grief support group, some of our hospice families come as well as community members. We have 5, give or take, attendees that have been coming for 3+ years. I just recently took over the role of Bereavement Coordinator and facilitating the grief groups. Since I began in July 2018, I have had no less than 10 but up to 17 participants in this open grief group, which my opinion is a little too much to handle for one facilitator. We started offering an 8 week closed session this spring hoping to give some of the new grievers a chance to have a a smaller atmosphere and work through their experience and separate them from the monthly meetings; we are in week 4, with 5 participants - all except ONE is from our monthly grief group and they are still regularly attending both. As i said, we hoped this would separate the newly bereaved from our attendants who come to our monthly groups for more of encouragement/social hour. We truly love our "oldie but goodies" because they can be helpful to our new folks when they are going through a rough time in their first year, but 16 is becoming a regular amount of people and I fear it is going to do one of two things: increase the number of people in the group or scare away new members because of size.
We have tried to identify those who regularly attend because of dependence vs coming for encouragement and socialization. We have talked to those long timers to see what they are looking for, and they have said they love helping the newly bereaved in their rough times and it is also their safe space/socialization. We have encouraged them to start their own group of some sorts, and while they haven't done that we fear they would still attend our group.
All of this for my question, has anyone had this issue? Any possible solutions? We've discussed putting a cap on length of time attending but are unsure.
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Allison Urda, BSW
Bereavement Coordinator
VCU Health CMH
Community Hospice
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