Bereavement Professional

  • 1.  resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-15-2022 02:38 PM
    I received a community request for resources related to supporting someone whose sibling was murdered. Do any of you have websites/ books/ podcasts or virtual groups you'd recommend for this kind of a death loss? 

    Thanks in advance!

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    Laura Lirette M.Ed, MSW, CSWA
    Bereavement Coordinator
    Mt Hood Hospice
    PO Box 1269
    Sandy, OR 97055
    Main number: 503-668-5545
    Fax: 503-668-7951
    llirette@mthoodhospice.org
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  • 2.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 09:30 AM
    Hi Laura,  Perhaps the following offer some additional ideas and support, book recommendations etc.  Hopefully helpful to you and the bereaved family.  

    Louis D Brown Peace Institute, located near Boston, serves as a center of healing, teaching and learning for families
    and communities impacted by murder, trauma, grief and loss. Call (617)-825-1917 or visit www.ldbpeaceinstitute.org

    The Llost Foundation (Loss of loved ones to sudden tragedy) focuses on support family members, friends and
    loved ones after a sudden death. Visit www.llost.org

    The National Organization of Murdered Children mission is to provide support and assistance to all survivors of
    homicide victims while working to create a world free of murder. Call (513)-721-5683 or visit www.pomc.org
     
    https://victimconnect.org/learn/types-of-crime/homicide-and-grief/


    With kindness,
    Heather



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    Heather Principato, MSW
    Home Health and Hospice Care
    Bereavement Clinician
    Merrimack, NH
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  • 3.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 10:14 AM
    Hi - I have a document that contains info of various aspects of a murder.  It's titled "A Guide to Survival for Family and Friends of Homicide Victims."  You can find it on the internet with a search on the title, but I believe this is the link:

    https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwiz6seC6Mr2AhXskIkEHUt7DxMQFnoECAMQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fdojmt.gov%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2011%2F05%2Fguidesurvival.pdf&usg=AOvVaw1eUrz37Y-9dc2gabZdeIr7




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    Nancy Arnold CDP
    Bereavement Manager
    Supportive Care Services
    Visiting Nurse Association
    Southcoast Health | 200 Mill Road | Fairhaven, MA. 02719
    508-973-3227 / cell: 774-319-3007
    ArnoldN@southcoast.org
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  • 4.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 11:56 AM

    Nancy-

    Thank you so much for the document! It has great information in it.

     

    Laura Lirette M.Ed, MSW, CSWA

    Bereavement Coordinator

    Mt Hood Hospice

    PO Box 1269

    Sandy, OR 97055

    Main number: 503-668-5545

    Fax: 503-668-7951

    llirette@mthoodhospice.org

     






  • 5.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 11:50 AM

    Heather-

    These are great! Thank you so much.

     

    Laura Lirette M.Ed, MSW, CSWA

    Bereavement Coordinator

    Mt Hood Hospice

    PO Box 1269

    Sandy, OR 97055

    Main number: 503-668-5545

    Fax: 503-668-7951

    llirette@mthoodhospice.org

     






  • 6.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 11:42 AM
    I know that Restorative Retelling Groups are a good resource for people who have experienced loss due to homicide. I don't know if there are any support groups of this nature in Oregon. I briefly looked online and didn't find any, but it was just a brief search. I know that it is offered in Seattle, WA. 
    The only other resource that I know of is geared towards parents: POMC- Parents of Murdered Children and they do have an Oregon Chapter. If there are parents in this family, it would be a good resource for them: POMC - Greater Portland Area Chapter. 


  • 7.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 03:33 PM

    Natalie,

     

    Love how you called out about the restorative retelling format. Indeed we too in the PDX/Vancouver area know of the POMC/Parents of Murdered Children Group, however, since you called out nature based work, in case others in this general area may be interested there is also this resource not specific to murder, but to nature-based grief support model:

     

    https://wildgrief.org/

     

     

     

    Exploring grief in the natural world helps people heal.

    At Wild Grief, we merge peer support with the healing power of nature. We've witnessed countless transformations as people engage with their grief in a natural setting alongside others on similar journeys. Simply walking together, being under the trees, and doing reflective activities leads to release, relief, and rootedness.

    By offering free, outdoor experiences for teens, young adults, families, and all-ages groups, we help more people find a place where they can remember, process, and discover a path to healing.

    We believe that:

    • It's important to acknowledge death and engage with loss.
    • Nature heals.
    • Community connections are powerful.
    • Grief support should be available to everyone.
    • Healing is possible.


    Wild Grief's Mission

    We facilitate peer groups for children and adults who are grieving a death by creating the space for sharing, connection, and healing in nature.

    Wild Grief's Vision

    A vital, resilient, and connected community with a healthy response to death.

    Wild Grief's Values

    • Nature
    • Connection
    • Exploration
    • Equity
    • Integrity
    • Compassion

     

     

    Joelle Osterhaus, MSW, LCSW, LICSW, ACHP-SW (she/her)
    KPNW Hospice & Palliative Care Psychosocial Services Manager

    NHPCO Bereavement Professionals Community Steering Committee, Chair

    "Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it." - Helen Keller

    Kaiser Permanente Northwest
    Continuing Care Services 2701 NW Vaughn St., Ste. 140, Portland, OR 97210-5344

    Cell Phone: (503) 312-0819
    Main Office: (503) 499-5200

    Fax: (503) 499-5535

    Bereavement Program Sharepoint Site: https://sp-cloud.kp.org/sites/teams-nwreg-NWAmbulatoryCare/CCS/Hospice/SitePages/BS.aspx

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  • 8.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-16-2022 01:23 PM
    Hi Heather! I would recommended The Miss Foundation in Phoenix (they have a certificate program called Compassionate Bereavement Care, which specializes in Traumatic Loss). They have providers everywhere and the founder, Dr. Joanne Cacciatore, also wrote a great book called 'Bearing the Unbearable'.

    Website: https://www.missfoundation.org/grieving/provider-directory/
    Book link:https://www.amazon.com/Bearing-Unbearable-Love-Heartbreaking-Grief/dp/1614292965

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    Jeanie Gaskill
    Volunteer Coordinator
    Banner Hospice
    Jeanie.gaskill@bannerhealth.com
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  • 9.  RE: resources for someone whose loved one was murdered

    Posted 03-17-2022 11:13 AM
    Hi Laura & others,

    These are some terrific resources and so appreciated.  As someone mentioned the Restorative Retelling model below, I wanted to let you know that I and 3 of my colleagues have been trained to facilitate groups with this process.  We will be offering 2 Zoom groups beginning in early May (10 weeks in duration).  They are geared for traumatic, unexpected and/or violent deaths, so could be homicide, suicide, drug overdose, accident, etc.  The groups are free of charge.  If anyone is interested in finding out more they can contact me at Carol.Miller2@lhcgroup.com.

    Carol S Miller, LCSW

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    Carol S. Miller, LCSW
    Bereavement Coordinator
    Casa de la Luz Hospice
    Tucson, AZ
    carolm@casahospice.com
    520-544-9890
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