Bereavement Professional

  • 1.  Mothers Day event

    Posted 02-23-2022 10:57 AM
    For the last 15  years (other than during the pandemic) we have held a highly successful "Remembering Our Mothers" brunch on the Saturday before Mother's Day. We typically average about 100 women attending. Yet we realize/are sensitive to the fact that, even harder than facing Mother's Day without one's mother is doing so when a woman has lost a child, regardless of the age of that child's death. So we are thinking about reworking or Remembering Our Mothers event into something that would also include women who have lost a child. I (and perhaps others) would love to hear from anyone who has attempted something like this - what you did and how it went. Thank you!

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    Patti Anewalt, Director
    Pathways Center for Grief & Loss
    Hospice & Community Care
    Mount Joy, PA
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  • 2.  RE: Mothers Day event

    Posted 02-24-2022 12:10 PM
    I think it's a great idea. 
      I also think it would be wonderful to honor all those who would like to be mothers, as Mother's Day can be especially hard for those struggling with infertility.  It's a devastating day for those with this type of disenfranchised grief. 
      I personally like to be as inclusive as possible, avoiding things like having people stand up if they had one experience or another.

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    Patty Dean, MA, LMHCA
    Envision Hospice of Washington
    Bereavement Coordinator
    Olympia, Washington
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  • 3.  RE: Mothers Day event

    Posted 02-24-2022 12:23 PM

    Yes, we offer a special Mother's Day Tea just before the holiday. It's also a tough time of year with Spring holidays to begin with, but recognizing and honoring bereaved moms of all types. Prior to COVID the moms would attend the ceremony in which bereavement counselor of Bereaved Mom's Group would facilitate, along with a message of hope from spiritual care, poem, candle lighting, and music therapy. Then the moms would get together for a lunch and tea provided by us. This allowed time for socialization and bonding. Since COVID, we have provided the service virtually without the tea and lunch, although they can have that time together at the end from home. We keep the moms on our mailing list over the years to invite them to holiday memorial service for moms in December and then again in May.

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  • 4.  RE: Mothers Day event

    Posted 02-24-2022 01:43 PM

    While I haven't done this kind of event, expanding the scope to recognize loss related to but not directly linked to the death of a mother is really thoughtful.

     

    In addition to people who have had children die, it is important to be mindful that some attendees may be part of the childless by circumstances not by choice (CNBC) community ie they had wanted to be mothers but for any number of reasons were never able to have children of their own. There is pain and grief for these women as well and they often feel invisible. Miscarriages, infertility and the other reasons someone may have never been able to be a mother are often disenfranchised. If you are able to recognize this alongside the grief of a mother's death or having a child die at any age, those who identify as CNBC would appreciate being visible.

     

    Are you planning to do something similar in recognition of fathers?

     

    Best wishes for the re-envisioning of the event. What a beautiful opportunity to offer your community!

     

    Laura Lirette M.Ed, MSW, CSWA

    Bereavement Coordinator

    Mt Hood Hospice

    PO Box 1269

    Sandy, OR 97055

    Main number: 503-668-5545

    Fax: 503-668-7951

    llirette@mthoodhospice.org

     






  • 5.  RE: Mothers Day event

    Posted 03-07-2022 10:34 AM
    Patti, sounds like a great program. I would love to hear more about it. We typically gear our groups to those who lost a mother. However, a few years ago, I was invited to be a speaker at a luncheon for women who lost a child, and it was held just before Mother's Day. It was a huge turnout but was held at a large church so many of those attending may have been members. But the church used it as an opportunity to truly support and show compassion to them. In addition to the speaker, they had a nice lunch, a table that pictures or obituaries could be displayed, and allowed people to share. It was a few years ago so I can't remember all the details, but I do remember it being impactful.

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    Karen Monts
    Director, Grief Support Services & Practice Manager, Counseling Services
    Northstar Care Community
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