Bereavement Professional

  • 1.  Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-02-2015 03:58 PM

    Hello,

    Since 2013, we have been offering special Mother's and Father's Day support group sessions to the bereaved in our community.  The Mother's Day sessions are consistently very well attended.  The Father's Day sessions seem to generate little to no participation.  Have any of you had similiar experiences, or do you have any insight into why this might be?  Very curious....  Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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    Carmella Dow, MSW

    Bereavement Coordinator
    Concord Regional Visiting Nurse Association, Inc.
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  • 2.  RE: Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-02-2015 04:13 PM

    We have experienced the same thing, although our attendance at the Mother's Day activity waxes and wanes with participation.

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    Daniel Speis, MSW, LICSW
    Coordinator of Grief Support & Spiritual Care Services
    Hospice of the Panhandle
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  • 3.  RE: Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-03-2015 08:10 AM

    Hi -

    We have the same experience.  Our Mother's Day tea is always filled to capacity.  For father's day, we have tried ice cream socials, kite events and art therapy workshops - trying to get children involved.  We have had very poor registrations and no longer offer a father's day program.

    Diane

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    Diane Snyder Cowan, MA, MT-BC, CHPCA
    Director of Bereavement Center
    Hospice of the Western Reserve, Inc
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  • 4.  RE: Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-03-2015 08:33 AM

    We consistently have over 100 women attending our Remembering Our Mother's breakfast held on the Saturday before Mother's Day. And inevitably a few people write in and suggest men who've lost a mother be allowed to attend so last year we specifically asked about that on our evaluations and clearly the consensus was a resounding 'no' - they want it to continue to be for just women. Knowing there was some interest for men we have a few times also offered a program for men who lost fathers that included food and/or an activity but, like others have found, it has no where near the interest women do about the mother's day one.

          We do offer a monthly drop-in support group for any adult who has lost a parent or sibling and that is consistently well attended - of course by more women than men but men do come as well.

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    Patti Anewalt
    Director
    Pathways Center for Grief & Loss
    Hospice & Community Care
    Mount Joy, PA
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  • 5.  RE: Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-04-2015 09:13 AM

    Hi-

    We also have had separate workshops for those grieving on Mother's Day and Father's Day. Mother's Day is always well attended, Father's Day is usually very small numbers. I am considering not offering the Father's Day workshop next year. We have many Adult Child who has Lost Their Parent bereavement groups throughout the year, so men can get support if needed. I love the idea of a Mother's Day Tea!

    Maribeth McKeever, LCSW-R

    Assistant Director of Bereavement

    Good Shepherd Hospice

    110 Bi-County Blvd, Suite 114

    Farmingdale, New York 11735

    (631) 828-7628

     

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  • 6.  RE: Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-05-2015 12:14 PM

    We borrowed Patti Anewalt's idea for a Mother's Day Tea Years ago and it's my favorite special event of all the year.  Ours is not as large as hers, but we do garner community sponsorship and have it catered by a local Tea Room.  We create a "Sacred Space" Table for photos and objects (part of the event is to introduce your Mom and talk about why you brought the object/item you did to share).  Participants also bring a photo to cut and paste as we create a scrapbook page.  Of course there is a grief education piece, a creative writing piece to help with the scrapbook activity and music.  It's limited attendance due to cost, but just a lovely yearly ritual.

    I've wondered if a golf outing/event (beautiful spaces) or a bike ride/race in honor of Dad would work for Father's Day.  Maybe create a fundraiser through those events for a "dad oriented " charity (or your own hospice) would be a good legacy ritual that folks might get behind.  Support with a purpose feels "Dad-like" to me and may appeal to men and women alike.       

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    Brenda Kenyon, LCSW
    Grief Specialist/Bereavement Coordinator
    St.Vincent Home Health and Hospice
    Indianapolis, Indiana
    brenda.kenyon@ahah.net

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  • 7.  RE: Mother's and Father's Day Remembrance Sessions

    Posted 06-03-2015 05:57 PM

    I don't think what you are experiencing is exclusive to bereavement support.  Father's Day in general seems to be greeted with less enthusiasm as a holiday than Mother's Day.  In addition to my Hospice work I am a Pastor and find churches have similar experiences.

    Not sure what the explanation is...probably something to do with the nurturing connection we have with our mother's?


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    Jeremy Holmes
    Bereavement Coordinator
    Comfort Hospice Care
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