Thanks, Debra. Our hospice is about 1/2 your size, but I'll think about how we might make this work for us!
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Merrie MacHose, MA
Bereavement Coordinator
Heartland Home Health Care and Hospice
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Original Message:
Sent: 11-19-2014 14:40
From: Debra Shively
Subject: interventions to engage widowers
The majority of the men who attend had wives who died through our hospice. When we are making the calls for our assessment we invited them and quite often they take us up on that. This is also open to the community, although the majority of attendees are hospice bereaved. We are a fairly large hospice, our census as of late has been in the upper 300's and at one point reached 400. On occasion the gentleman have invited a friend and while we have a pretty solid core group of men we have a good rotation of newer ones as well. Our groups are also listed in the local newspaper which is how the community is informed.
One of our Good Grief Guys makes monthly calls to remind the attendees and most of the guys say that without the reminder call they likely would have forgotten. It seems that these guys really enjoy their monthly "fellowship!"
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Debra Shively
Bereavement Counselor
Center for Hospice Care
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Original Message:
Sent: 11-19-2014 11:37
From: Merrie MacHose
Subject: interventions to engage widowers
Debra, I'm curious how you were able to gather that many widowers that can attend. Is yours a large hospice? Is it open to the community and how do you draw them in if they come from the community?
Thanks!
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Merrie MacHose, MA
Bereavement Coordinator
Heartland Home Health Care and Hospice
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Original Message:
Sent: 11-19-2014 07:30
From: Debra Shively
Subject: interventions to engage widowers
We host a once a month group called the "Good Grief Guys Breakfast." We meet at a local restaurant for breakfast from 8:30-10:00 and we average around 18 guys or so each month. I would say the average age of these guys is around 80 so I think that is pretty awesome. Also we started a quarterly meeting where we combine the widows and widowers. This typically includes a meal (each pays their own way) and we use a 3 panel themed posterboard. Last year we purchased large paper snowflakes and had each of them write their spouses name and place it on the board. At the end of the meeting each person went up and introduced who their spouse was, when they died etc. Most ended up sharing little stories and the gentleman later said that this was the most meaningful part of the get together!
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Debra Shively
Bereavement Counselor
Center for Hospice Care
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Original Message:
Sent: 11-18-2014 17:45
From: Betty Weeks
Subject: interventions to engage widowers
I have noticed that it is extremely difficult to engage widowers in any type of bereavement services. Yet, it seems that their pain and loss is even harder than for widows. . Do you have any good ideas to hook these desperate men without having them troll for widows at the next support group?