The place where we have held our service for the past few years does not allow for open flames so we had to adapt. The service begins with the lighting of one large candle contained in a glass jar. Instead of lighting individual candles, we have a "Book of Remembrance." The patient's name is read allowed and the family comes forward to inscirbe the patient's name in the book. Then the family member is given a small tokin gift, sometimes it is an angel or star orament, personalized bookmark, sun-catcher,etc. We only call out the names of patients who have rsvp-ed for the service and then we invite others to come forward if they have additional names to write in the book. This works very well and persoanlly I feel much safe than having all those candles!