This is such a great question.
For me, when I have had personal losses I have tried to see it as a time to practice the things that I share with those I work with. This means
-remembering that each loss is unique and may feel different
-trust myself and do the things that intuitively feel comforting or supportive
-take time and space as I need to
-ask for what I need and try to find ways to get those needs met
-allow myself to experience and validate the emotions connected to the loss
-use ritual or practices to help me digest the loss and transform the relationship to a non-interactive/non-physical one.
RE stepping out of groups- this depends on the loss. When my mom died in Aug 2022 I delayed the group that was supposed to start by a month. I knew I wouldn't be able to facilitate in the first few weeks. By week 4 I was managing for short periods of time. By the time the group cycle started it felt supportive to be creating a space for people to openly learn and talk about grief. This was my experience. I've had a coworker and a friend die unexpectedly. For these losses I didn't feel like I needed to cancel groups. It may be different for other people or for myself when other losses come about in the future. I think it really depends on how the grief is unfolding as to what to do and what to step away from for a time.
If you'd like to talk more personally, feel free to send me an email or call.
Laura Lirette M.Ed, MSW, CSWA (She/Her)
Bereavement Coordinator
Mt Hood Hospice
PO Box 1269
Sandy, OR 97055
Main number: 503-668-5545
Fax: 503-668-7951
llirette@mthoodhospice.org
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